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Lostsoul. Wrote:
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> waheguru jee ka khalsa, waheguru jee kee fateh.
>
> I have heard and read about sava lakh mul mantar
> gursikhs do and how I should do paath if I wants
> to change my life.
> without getting into any detail, I just want to
> say i deftly need help. I have a lot of fear, self
> sabotizing, feeling of being a burden and useless.
wow - for you to be aware of the fear - first of all that is a gift jeeo - there are some in this world not aware of it and go on doing the same habitual thing without realizing.be grateful to vaheguru he has made you aware in the first instance. Feeling of burden and useless - maybe seva in your local gurdwara is missing in your life, try seva in langar or anywhere in some sort of form in the Gurdwara while doing naam in prem in your mind at the same time - see if it helps and feedback here if it does as it will benefit others.> Eveyr morning I wake up about giving up this life
why - life is a gift so when you wake up thank vaheguru repeat dhan Guru Nanak dev Jee about 15-20 times before you do your nitenem.> But I will never do that. Paath does brings a hope
> within me but then when I hear people saying how
> it's wrong to do paath to get things.
issue is the lord almighty gives anyway regardless of you doing path or not -- doesn't he -- after all your are alive and kicking -- he has given you precious life. There is nothing wrong in asking - or doing path for something - however keep in mind --and ask vaheguru to protect you from being addictied to whatever you are asking for too.We should
> only do paath out of love and i do love gurbani.
> But I am not at that point of my life where I can
> just pretend my life is great and do paath without
> expecting waheguru to help me fixing my life. I
> dont ask for anything for myself, just wants mom
> dad to be proud of myself and wants to do
> everything so they can have a peceful life and
> also wants to help many others too. I agree some
> people strive for money, I want everyone to be
> proud of me and think I can help them, I know
> thats my ego and I am not at the point to give up.
> I just want to feel used than being a burden on
> this planet, wants a contribution in this
> society.
seva - charity runs, walks there are zillions of things you can do - there are tons of Sikh charities crying for help go for them.>
> I have heard many katha where it is said that if
> a person does a lot of paath his or her life
> starts changing. I do paath but not a lot of it.
> So I guess my question is.. is that wrong for me
> if I make a goal that I want to do japji sahib for
> 40 days and before 40 days I want to reach a
> certain number of paaths.
>
nothing wrong at all - however - make it a goal to carry on regardless the goal.> or
> what can i do to help myself? This fear and self
> sabotizing demon eats me every single moment.
pray to maharaja and beg for forgiveness and pray he has presented you with this fear and now ask for help to use it instead of being owned by it.>
> I am a 26 years old woman, I have a huge fear of
> driving and I live in USA where without my license
> I am a handicap.
> I have a very low self confidence and I think I
> can't get a job so I am so scared for that.
> I want to get into a master program for
> biomedical Engg but I see very less chances. I can
> only apply to one university since My parents
> won't let me go anywhere else.
> I have a strict family whihc does not helps
> either.
issue is our beliefs and thoughts try to own us - but do they really when such self sabotage , fear thoughts come up as them the thought the following questions:
Who says this?
This question is directed to the thought form. Notice what happens when the thought form is asked this question. Often it fades back into the background because it does not want to be
detected. Its power is in its stealth.
What makes it so?
This question asks for grounding, actual evidence, and for an ungrounded assessment that has been running through the mind without verifi
cation. What you will discover is that many criticisms run through your mind that are not accurate. When they are challenged, they fade into the back ground — for awhile
What is your intent?
This is a powerful question to the sabotaging thought see if it can answer ?> Its my marriage age and always thought waheguru
> will send him and he will help me with my fears
> but did not happened. I gave up a hope for having
> a companion.I never searched a guy for myself
> because I want to remain pure befor marriage and
> my condition is too much to ask for.
> I want to do paath out of love than doing it so
> waheguru can help me but I am not there yet.
> I know my life is not very horrible, but from my
> point of view I want to help myself but I fail
> every single day.
> I have been trying to conquer my driving fear
> since I was 19..and and after 7 years I could not,
> thats a major failure.
please seek out professionals or people who can help in this , without that it will not work - any goal in life needs some sort of sangat of the similar people heading for the same goal then that goal is realized much quicker. - -give that a go, if you already have try changing the sanagt see if that works.> I want to help mom dad financially but Failed at
> it too.
> I always thought I would help so many people by
> becoming something but failed at it too.I know I
> have a whole life to help others but first I have
> to help myself.
> I might have been a really horrible person in my
> past life, but i heard in katha that we can only
> do paath and simran based on our karma. and people
> who were horrible they don't get into spirituality
> that soon.
> I know i have a sharda to do paath and spend most
> of my time listening to kirtan but deep down i
> always wonder why my life is not changing.
> I do want help, if not from waheguru atleast from
> a mahapurkh who can guide me. I am ready to give
> up anything to make mom dad proud of me.
> I know sikhism does says that we should just do
> kirat and not worry about fruits. and I am not
> asking for delicious fruits, I just want to have a
> normal life, I am careless about the whole world
> judging me. It just hurts when I see my parents
> judging me. I am not saying they are not proud of
> me, They are. They do think they have a good
> daughter who is into paath than partying.
> I am sorry about venting, I just got into the
> moment.
> Can anybody here help me? I am sure there might be
> many mahapurkhs here to help lost people like me.
>
> please guide me and explain me how I can be a
> better person .
>
you have to start somewhere - at some point and some simple goal first in achieving what you want and then go on from there step by step. Life is a chapter we have to make the most of what we can , of our time and contributions. We must seek consistency in something small first in order to go for further goals.
> Thank you so much and I am sorry if topics like
> this are not allowed to be posted here.
topic is valid enough and I think it is a lot more common out there in people of your age, what is need is further input to help you, I do hope there are further contributions here as above by Bhai Jasjit Singh and others.
please feedback on how it goes and keep at it.