chota veer sukhdeep singh jee, you have caught me in quite a mood today, i apologize in advance if i am harsh. your repeated remarks about things you do not understand are making it difficult to keep my words to myself. and trust me, i try, with every post of yours, with every veiled insult you throw at me, i try, i do try.
but come on! you think delhi sikhs saying "jaanu" is western corruption? are you joking? delhi sikhs have just now become westernized? jaanu is a very old term of endearment, hundreds, maybe thousands of years old. certainly before the west found india. now you blame the west for this? why on earth do you live here if you think western culture t's such a bad influence on sikhi? surely indian culture, punjabi culture, is no better!
do you know nihangs call their horses "jaan bhai". now you'll say this is anti-gurmat westernization too?
when an elder gurmukh calls his singhnee mata jee, is this not a term of endearment? is this acceptable because it's not english? are only english endearments wrong? or is this also wrong?
it's essential to understand the difference between love/respect and attachment. clearly this is a confusing concept for unmarried singhs. what married gursikhs call their spouses is of no concern to kids. keep your own marriage as you like it, but please stop pointing fingers at things you know nothing about. this is a common theme in your posts, and it's annoying!
guru sahib's concept of ik jot doe murti (GURBANI, not poetry), is not the same as the hindu or western concept of "soul mate". it literally means ONE SOUL. not two souls destined to be together in the future. ONE soul. IK. just as everything is IK. one soul seeking waheguru together, through joined simran, joined paath, joined gursikhi jeevan. you have to get this hindu "soul mate" nonsense out of your head if you want to understand gurbani. ask a respected gurmukh what it means. i know you'll never believe a singhnee, especially not a white singhnee. so ask someone you DO respect. perhaps they can make you understand what a blessing guru sahib has given to the married couple.
i apologize to the sangat. i know i should not respond directly to one poster in this way. this is my weakness, my ego, my sin. please do ardaas that i am able to hold my tongue at his veiled insults and pointed comments in the future. because i can't seem to do it on my own.
ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂਜੀਕਾਖਾਲਸਾਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂਜੀਕੀਫਤਿਹ