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Becoming Humble

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Becoming Humble
December 02, 2017 11:28AM
Does anyone have any tips how one can become humble? Humbleness and humility are two very important things as per Sikhi, but many people, including myself, struggle with it because of an exalted pride. Despite our efforts, sometimes pride can get the best of a person. Even if we try very hard not to "boast" about ourselves and our Sikhi to others, sometimes we do this to ourselves in our own minds (starting to think highly of ourselves for doing x, y, z). Although this is progress, its not exactly optimal.

Any tips/advice would be appreciated.
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Re: Becoming Humble
December 04, 2017 07:47PM
Guru Sahib gave us Sikhi, so He also has the Power to take Sikhi away from us at anytime as well.
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Re: Becoming Humble
December 08, 2017 03:00AM
With all due respect, people of all religion fall into this trap. Realization is the first step. Being Sikh means we treat ourselves dust of others, and as a student we are learning all the time. No one is without God particle. Please follow Guru Granth sahib ji.
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Re: Becoming Humble
December 10, 2017 05:45PM
Personally, I don't believe non-Amritdharis can be mukt, not do I feel that an Amritdhari and Non-Amritdharis is equal, but something I noticed in Gurbani:
"ਕਬੀਰ ਦਾਵੈ ਦਾਝਨੁ ਹੋਤੁ ਹੈ ਨਿਰਦਾਵੈ ਰਹੈ ਨਿਸੰਕ ॥
Kabīr ḏāvai ḏājẖan hoṯ hai nirḏāvai rahai nisank.
Kabeer, those who brag, shall burn. Those who do not brag remain carefree. " (Dhan Dhan Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji Ang 1373) I do think that as Sikhs we should have a more active role in the world because only Guru Sahib can save anyone, and the message of our Guru should spread, and I think some people who are boastful of their Sikhi truly want the message to spread, but usually the problem is they talk about how great they are rather than how great Vaheguru and Guru Sahib are.

So as Sikhs, (or even as just humans), we should set aside how great we are, (materialistic or spiritual), and start saying "Vaheguru thank you for letting me be a Sikh, so many are lost, but you give hope", and that should be our message instead, "Look how much Paht I did".

So are Sikhs better than Non-Sikhs, I'd have to go with yes, but is Guru Sahib more important, absolutely, and that's something sadly both our youth and elderly are forgetting.
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Re: Becoming Humble
December 13, 2017 02:14PM
We will be doing a video on this subject soon. Please stay tuned for it.

Kulbir Singh
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Re: Becoming Humble
December 16, 2017 04:36AM
Jacfsing2--------Personally, I don't believe non-Amritdharis can be mukt, not do I feel that an Amritdhari and Non-Amritdharis is equal.

How about than Guru Nanak Dev Ji, Kabir Ji and Nam dev Ji . Problem is thinking personally not what Guru Granth Sahib ji says. As in Guru Granth Sahib says whom I say bad as all have god essence in them.

Becoming Humble: As soon as you say we are better than others, you are far from God, that is Ego, not being humble

ਨਹ ਪੰਡਿਤੁ ਨਹ ਚਤੁਰੁ ਸਿਆਨਾ ॥
I am not a learned Pandit, I am not clever or wise.

ਨਾਨਕ ਗੁਰਮਤਿ ਸਹਜਿ ਸਮਾਨਾ ॥੮॥੧॥
Nanak is absorbed in intuitive peace through the Guru's Teachings. ||8||1||

ਜਹ ਜਹ ਦੇਖਉ ਤਹ ਤਹ ਸਾਚਾ ॥
Wherever I look, there I find the True Lord

ਬਿਨੁ ਬੂਝੇ ਝਗਰਤ ਜਗੁ ਕਾਚਾ ॥੪॥
Without understanding, the world argues in falsehood

ਬਿਨੁ ਬੂਝੇ ਪਸੂ ਭਏ ਬੇਤਾਲੇ ॥੬॥
Without understanding, people become beasts and demons.

ਹਠੁ ਕਰਿ ਮਰੈ ਨ ਲੇਖੈ ਪਾਵੈ ॥
One who dies in stubbornness shall not be approved

ਵੇਸ ਕਰੈ ਬਹੁ ਭਸਮ ਲਗਾਵੈ ॥
even though he may wear religious robes and smear his body all over with ashes.

ਹਉਮੈ ਨਿਵਰੈ ਗੁਰ ਸਬਦੁ ਵੀਚਾਰੈ ॥
Egotism is overcome only by contemplating the Word of the Guru's Shabad.
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Re: Becoming Humble
December 16, 2017 10:12AM
@Sevak, Dhan Dhan Sri Guru Nanak Dev Ji came with the power to give Amrit, even before his prakash in 1469. Also after some time all the Bhagats started following Guru Sahib, and nor is logical to openly insult Bhagats, as they had all taken Amrit from the formless form of Guru Sahib. Also there is no line in Gurbani that says the Bhagats didn't take Amrit; especially since all throughout Gurbani, Gur-Prasad is the key element. Dhan Dhan Sri Guru Nanak Dev Ji is Vaheguru, as well as Guru Sahib is the only way to Vaheguru, and I am not going to debate on that.

ਸਭ ਤੇ ਵਡਾ ਸਤਿਗੁਰੁ ਨਾਨਕੁ ਜਿਨਿ ਕਲ ਰਾਖੀ ਮੇਰੀ ॥੪॥੧੦॥੫੭॥
Guru Nanak is the greatest of all; He saved my honor in this Dark Age of Kali Yuga. ||4||10||57||
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Re: Becoming Humble
December 23, 2017 04:26AM
ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਆਇਆ ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਗਇਆ ॥
हउ विचि आइआ हउ विचि गइआ ॥
Ha▫o vicẖ ā▫i▫ā ha▫o vicẖ ga▫i▫ā.
In ego they come, and in ego they go.

ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਜੰਮਿਆ ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਮੁਆ ॥
हउ विचि जमिआ हउ विचि मुआ ॥
Ha▫o vicẖ jammi▫ā ha▫o vicẖ mu▫ā.
In ego they are born, and in ego they die.

ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਦਿਤਾ ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਲਇਆ ॥
हउ विचि दिता हउ विचि लइआ ॥
Ha▫o vicẖ ḏiṯā ha▫o vicẖ la▫i▫ā.
In ego they give, and in ego they take.

ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਖਟਿਆ ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਗਇਆ ॥
हउ विचि खटिआ हउ विचि गइआ ॥
Ha▫o vicẖ kẖati▫ā ha▫o vicẖ ga▫i▫ā.
In ego they earn, and in ego they lose.

ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਸਚਿਆਰੁ ਕੂੜਿਆਰੁ ॥
हउ विचि सचिआरु कूड़िआरु ॥
Ha▫o vicẖ sacẖiār kūṛi▫ār.
In ego they become truthful or false.

ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਪਾਪ ਪੁੰਨ ਵੀਚਾਰੁ ॥
हउ विचि पाप पुंन वीचारु ॥
Ha▫o vicẖ pāp punn vīcẖār.
In ego they reflect on virtue and sin.

ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਨਰਕਿ ਸੁਰਗਿ ਅਵਤਾਰੁ ॥
हउ विचि नरकि सुरगि अवतारु ॥
Ha▫o vicẖ narak surag avṯār.
In ego they go to heaven or hell.

ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਹਸੈ ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਰੋਵੈ ॥
हउ विचि हसै हउ विचि रोवै ॥
Ha▫o vicẖ hasai ha▫o vicẖ rovai.
In ego they laugh, and in ego they weep.

ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਭਰੀਐ ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਧੋਵੈ ॥
हउ विचि भरीऐ हउ विचि धोवै ॥
Ha▫o vicẖ bẖarī▫ai ha▫o vicẖ ḏẖovai.
In ego they become dirty, and in ego they are washed clean.

ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਜਾਤੀ ਜਿਨਸੀ ਖੋਵੈ ॥
हउ विचि जाती जिनसी खोवै ॥
Ha▫o vicẖ jāṯī jinsī kẖovai.
In ego they lose social status and class.

ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਮੂਰਖੁ ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਸਿਆਣਾ ॥
हउ विचि मूरखु हउ विचि सिआणा ॥
Ha▫o vicẖ mūrakẖ ha▫o vicẖ si▫āṇā.
In ego they are ignorant, and in ego they are wise.

ਮੋਖ ਮੁਕਤਿ ਕੀ ਸਾਰ ਨ ਜਾਣਾ ॥
मोख मुकति की सार न जाणा ॥
Mokẖ mukaṯ kī sār na jāṇā.
They do not know the value of salvation and liberation.

ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਮਾਇਆ ਹਉ ਵਿਚਿ ਛਾਇਆ ॥
हउ विचि माइआ हउ विचि छाइआ ॥
Ha▫o vicẖ mā▫i▫ā ha▫o vicẖ cẖẖā▫i▫ā.
In ego they love Maya, and in ego they are kept in darkness by it.

ਹਉਮੈ ਕਰਿ ਕਰਿ ਜੰਤ ਉਪਾਇਆ ॥
हउमै करि करि जंत उपाइआ ॥
Ha▫umai kar kar janṯ upā▫i▫ā.
Living in ego, mortal beings are created.

ਹਉਮੈ ਬੂਝੈ ਤਾ ਦਰੁ ਸੂਝੈ ॥
हउमै बूझै ता दरु सूझै ॥
Ha▫umai būjẖai ṯā ḏar sūjẖai.
When one understands ego, then the Lord's gate is known.

ਗਿਆਨ ਵਿਹੂਣਾ ਕਥਿ ਕਥਿ ਲੂਝੈ ॥
गिआन विहूणा कथि कथि लूझै ॥
Gi▫ān vihūṇā kath kath lūjẖai.
Without spiritual wisdom, they babble and argue.

ਨਾਨਕ ਹੁਕਮੀ ਲਿਖੀਐ ਲੇਖੁ ॥
नानक हुकमी लिखीऐ लेखु ॥
Nānak hukmī likī▫ai lekẖ.
O Nanak, by the Lord's Command, destiny is recorded.

ਜੇਹਾ ਵੇਖਹਿ ਤੇਹਾ ਵੇਖੁ ॥੧॥
जेहा वेखहि तेहा वेखु ॥१॥
Jehā vekẖėh ṯehā vekẖ. ||1||
As the Lord sees us, so are we seen. ||1||

ਮਹਲਾ ੨ ॥
महला २ ॥
Mėhlā 2.
Second Mehl:

ਹਉਮੈ ਏਹਾ ਜਾਤਿ ਹੈ ਹਉਮੈ ਕਰਮ ਕਮਾਹਿ ॥
हउमै एहा जाति है हउमै करम कमाहि ॥
Ha▫umai ehā jāṯ hai ha▫umai karam kamāhi.
This is the nature of ego, that people perform their actions in ego.

ਹਉਮੈ ਏਈ ਬੰਧਨਾ ਫਿਰਿ ਫਿਰਿ ਜੋਨੀ ਪਾਹਿ ॥
हउमै एई बंधना फिरि फिरि जोनी पाहि ॥
Ha▫umai e▫ī banḏẖnā fir fir jonī pāhi.
This is the bondage of ego, that time and time again, they are reborn.

ਹਉਮੈ ਕਿਥਹੁ ਊਪਜੈ ਕਿਤੁ ਸੰਜਮਿ ਇਹ ਜਾਇ ॥
हउमै किथहु ऊपजै कितु संजमि इह जाइ ॥
Ha▫umai kithhu ūpjai kiṯ sanjam ih jā▫e.
Where does ego come from? How can it be removed?

ਹਉਮੈ ਏਹੋ ਹੁਕਮੁ ਹੈ ਪਇਐ ਕਿਰਤਿ ਫਿਰਾਹਿ ॥
हउमै एहो हुकमु है पइऐ किरति फिराहि ॥
Ha▫umai eho hukam hai pa▫i▫ai kiraṯ firāhi.
This ego exists by the Lord's Order; people wander according to their past actions.

ਹਉਮੈ ਦੀਰਘ ਰੋਗੁ ਹੈ ਦਾਰੂ ਭੀ ਇਸੁ ਮਾਹਿ ॥
हउमै दीरघ रोगु है दारू भी इसु माहि ॥
Ha▫umai ḏīragẖ rog hai ḏārū bẖī is māhi.
Ego is a chronic disease, but it contains its own cure as well.

ਕਿਰਪਾ ਕਰੇ ਜੇ ਆਪਣੀ ਤਾ ਗੁਰ ਕਾ ਸਬਦੁ ਕਮਾਹਿ ॥
किरपा करे जे आपणी ता गुर का सबदु कमाहि ॥
Kirpā kare je āpṇī ṯā gur kā sabaḏ kamāhi.
If the Lord grants His Grace, one acts according to the Teachings of the Guru's Shabad.

ਨਾਨਕੁ ਕਹੈ ਸੁਣਹੁ ਜਨਹੁ ਇਤੁ ਸੰਜਮਿ ਦੁਖ ਜਾਹਿ ॥੨॥
नानकु कहै सुणहु जनहु इतु संजमि दुख जाहि ॥२॥
Nānak kahai suṇhu janhu iṯ sanjam ḏukẖ jāhi. ||2||
Nanak says, listen, people: in this way, troubles depart. ||2||
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Re: Becoming Humble
December 27, 2017 01:55AM
Simran” is derived from the Sanskrit word “smarana” which literally means “the act of remembrance.” Many enlightened souls have taught that by practicing simran, i.e. remembrance of God, one is purified and attains salvation.

“Si-mar” means “to die”. Through the act of constant remembrance, we kill our ego in order to have union with the ultimate Truth – God himself.
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Re: Becoming Humble
March 14, 2018 10:10AM
Tips about humbleness.

We are generally humble with our close family members, so a feeling of closeness with others (Naa Ko Berri Nahi Bigana) should help.

True greatness makes one humble. Here is a quote “An empty vessel makes the loudest sound, so they that have the least wit are the greatest babblers.”― Plato. So try to be a great person.

Once we are engrossed with SIMRAN, humbleness comes automatically. One cannot afford to lose SIMRAN RAS; by loosing humbleness.

Our self respect is a possession worth having. Maintaining it, should not be be confused with loosing humbleness.

They do, what GURU SAHIB is making them to do. So, see their helplessness in their deeds.

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