"Anand" for ever.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

It is about marriage ceremony.

Guru Sahib named it ANAND. Khalsa called it Anand Karaj. And it is about happiness and bliss. Every sikh goes into it, in the presence of Guru Sahib. WE seek blessings of Guru Sahib for a blessed life ahead. And we get advice, insructions, ideals as well.

DHAN PIR EH NAA-----------------------------

We are supposed to live in two bodies with one soul. Indeed, a beautiful ideal relationship target, shown by Guru Sahib.

And why all of a sudden, things fail and some of them, like to live, "not together." And worse further, worldly courts play their role.------decree of divorce.

So sad, who fall to that state of marriage.

Can we have some advice for our young brothers/sisters to live in ANAND relation, always?

Bhul Chuk Maaf Hove Ji.

There is No dictionary in this world which has antonym of Anand Karaj. Hence, it is irreversible.

Jaskirat Singh Veer Ji, writes like that, in another post. Thank you Veer Ji.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji KI Fateh

This post could not find any interest of Sangat here. I do find that the other topic on "equality of women" is related to this thread also. May be we can come up with tips here too.

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Daas

I remember someone wrote a nice post on this a while back:

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Some experienced married Singhnis should maybe come up with similar advices for Sikh wives.

Those are good advices there, as said by bhein ji. Certainly, we also need similar for women also.

The only way they can live happily is when they stop being selfish and greedy (money)

Parents don't mean anything anymore - Extended famalies are NO zone areas. The word love/faith does not exist anymore - all that exists is me.

I am sorry but today in this world they can live in "Anand" if the groom leaves his family - buys a house and is happy with his in-laws.

I have seen too many lives been ruined all because they want to live alone - too many divorces.

Lets hope Wageguru changes the hearts of todays brothers/sisters they have a long way to go.

God Bless

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MB Singh
Can we have some advice for our young brothers/sisters to live in ANAND relation, always?

1. In olden times there were less number of rooms and more number of family members. Nowadays we guys have more number of rooms and less number of family members. I think the answer is straight forward, bring back the culture of joint and extended families.

2. Bibi should stop pressuring her husband to take separate flat/apartment. Just because she is not intereseted in cooking extra 5-10 chappati, not interested in washing extra 5-10 clothes , not able to watch her favourite TV serial etc... these should not be the reason to break out from joint family.

3. DO NOT buy cradles or trolleys for childrens. Sikh childrens are better in the arms of their parents than cradles. We should Not behave as Westerners, where Pets are in arms and Child is in trolley. Eventually, in old age Westerners are left with Pets only and childrens are gone. If parents raise their childrens in trolley by keeping distance from them, then in future why not child will make distance from his/her parent.

Lastly, the family who Cook together, Eat together and Pray together is the one who is in Anand Forever.

Bhul Chuk Maaf.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa,
Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh.

Very true - please mothers teach our daughters true love - but not love for material things


bless

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DO NOT buy cradles or trolleys for childrens. Sikh childrens are better in the arms of their parents than cradles. We should Not behave as Westerners, where Pets are in arms and Child is in trolley. Eventually, in old age Westerners are left with Pets only and childrens are gone. If parents raise their childrens in trolley by keeping distance from them, then in future why not child will make distance from his/her parent.

Excellent advice. How unnatural that the modern mothers don't let their new born babies to sleep with them but in separate cradles. The child naturally has the tendency to sleep with the mother and it's artificial man-made theory to deprive the child of this extremely important tender care.

Kulbir Singh

jaskirat Wrote:
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>
> 1. In olden times there were less number of rooms
> and more number of family members. Nowadays we
> guys have more number of rooms and less number of
> family members. I think the answer is straight
> forward, bring back the culture of joint and
> extended families.
>
> 2. Bibi should stop pressuring her husband to take
> separate flat/apartment. Just because she is not
> intereseted in cooking extra 5-10 chappati, not
> interested in washing extra 5-10 clothes , not
> able to watch her favourite TV serial etc... these
> should not be the reason to break out from joint
> family.

vice versa - -there are load of old codger mother in laws too who cause trouble therefore they force newly weds to move out.
>
> 3. DO NOT buy cradles or trolleys for childrens.
> Sikh childrens are better in the arms of their
> parents than cradles. We should Not behave as
> Westerners, where Pets are in arms and Child is in
> trolley. Eventually, in old age Westerners are
> left with Pets only and childrens are gone. If
> parents raise their childrens in trolley by
> keeping distance from them, then in future why not
> child will make distance from his/her parent.
>

well the benefit is both ways - you don't want to llolypop the child too much so he becomes attached so much- there is no evidence of lost pyaar - and no way of knowin this is in advance

> Lastly, the family who Cook together, Eat together
> and Pray together is the one who is in Anand
> Forever.


agreee on that one

In Gursikh marriages, it is painful if one of the partners, blaims the other of being lesser on GURMAT. And thus wants to break up. This issue needs to be addressed.

As per His will, we get what we sow....why lament?

As leafy bhein ji puts it, It is as per HIS WILL. -----------So we get into ANAND KARAJ and then live happy/unhappy and then get separated if unhappy as per HIS WILL.---------- This is the answer to every issue we face. Is not it? A general way to console ourselves.

Let us agree to it for a while. What about GURMAT way? Are not we bound to sustain ANAND KARAJ at all possible cost/sacrifice.

What I personally wish to suggest young brothers/sisters is that RESPECT THE CEREMONY. IT IS RESPECT TO THE GURU. There is always hope. Be patient. The other partner will also learn with time. Many of our elders had to have patience in this relation. They succeeded ultimately.

HIS WILL rules of course. We are just bound to our destinies. We are reaping, what was sown. Let us sow better this time.