Since you are married, you should try to walk on the Gursikh path together. Amrit is given to both husband and wife and not to one life-partner. If one partner keeps rehit but the other one does not, then they both are not considered tyaar-bar-tyaar for doing seva in Guru-ghar. Both husband and wife should be tyaar bar tyaar.
Keep maximum Rehit you can and try to persuade your wife to keep Rehit as well. Do earnest Ardaas before Guru Sahib and if Guru Sahib wills, your demand will be fulfilled. Only when you have exhausted all means to persuade her to keep Rehit, should you take the drastic step of going alone on Sikhi path. This option is very difficult to follow and best thing is to talk and consult with Tyaar bar Tyaar Gursikhs in your area. Whatever you do, do nothing in haste.
Kulbir Singh