I read the following article off another website.
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Sat Sri Akaal everyone,
I'm a young Punjabi-Sikh girl from Australia and I would like to ask your opinions on these topics raised.
First of all, I hold my religion very close to my heart... however I am very critical of Punjabi culture, and I do notice the bad things like:
1. double-standard in men and women, heavy patriarchy/sexism - boys can go out, girls can't and if they do, they are deemed to be 'bad'.
2. racism towards other cultures - seeing white/black people as being different to us and saying they have bad morals
3. upholding of caste system - you often hear 'jatts' refer to other castes as 'choodas' and even when they say they don't believe in caste.. they continue to do so
4. extreme pride in having a 'good' family - it's so important for many parents to marry their kids into a good family and often don't let their children be happy and have the freedom they want because other people will think it's 'bad' - e.g. going out
...and many more beliefs which contradict Sikhism.
This is all generally speaking on my experience but I'm sure many of you can relate.
I would like to know, what is your opinion on the fact that Punjabi culture is being held higher than Sikhism by many Punjabis? How could we change this? Do you disagree with me? I would just like your opinions because I feel so lost and so insecure in my culture.
I see a lot of young Sikh men who go out and get drunk, get Sikhi tattoos, call themselves "jatts" and get angry when they see young Sikh girls going out and I think it's disgusting that parents are telling their kids this is right.. personally I have taught my little brother that this is completely wrong. He was putting "jatt" on his Facebook before and I got upset at him for doing that... but lots of parents aren't teaching their kids about Sikhi, they are just instilling their racist and sexist beliefs in their kids.
Older people are saying Punjabi culture is becoming 'Westernized' but I just believe it is evolving. What do you think? Do you think Punjabi culture is changing for the good or the bad?
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(For the full article, visit this
link on Sikh Philosophy)
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To a certain extent, I agree with her points. One in particular is the caste system. When I got Amrit, I was told that my "caste" is Khalsa, and all other Ablakhis were told the same. Then why is it that people, even those that take Amrit, continue to believe in the caste system?
Every time I've questioned my family, I always get an answer that confuses me even more.
"The good Sikhs follow the caste system and only marry their children within the same caste. Yet, they don't show it"
What's that supposed to mean?
To me, that doesn't make much sense, especially coming from a family who is Amritdhari. Even after being told that all those who take Amrit have no caste associated with them, these people still continue to follow it. I find this is more common with those who were originally "Jatts". They can't seem to forget their past upbringing into which ever caste they belong into.
Secondly, as discussed many times before, there continues to be a double standard between females and male. I'm not talking about the work they have to do (dishes, etc.), more so what they can and cannot do. As stated in the article, parents either tend to have more trust in boys, or they think nothing's going to happen to them. Girls don't seem to get the same freedom. I've noticed it in my family, and other families as well. Although when kids question their parents, they are told that all their kids are equal and treated equally. That's not the case though. I have a brother, and he seems to be allowed to go over to his friends house and stay out late. Whereas for me, I can't even go over to someone's house, unless if it's school related. Many families seem to have this problem, and I hear about it all the time.
Thirdly, why is it that after you become Amritdhari, you're suddenly more racist and discriminate against others (white/black people)?
I understand that you should keep sangat with those that are like you, or are good models for you. This however does not mean that we need to discriminate against other people, and say that only friends that are Sikhs can be friends. I've got many friends from different backgrounds -- White, Black, Brown, Yellow -- and they're all the same, personality wise. What else is their to look in a friend? We can't only have friends that are of the same faith and background, as we live in a multicultural society. Also, their are many qualities that we cannot always find in someone of the same faith as us. All those other people out their aren't necessarily "bad company" for us. They can be, but we'd be the ones allowing that. As long as we know our limits, and don't let others negatively influence us, it shouldn't be a problem.
This is my opinion on the article, and my own thought about mixing Sikhism with the Punjabi Culture. Please do share your opinions and thoughts.