singh97 Wrote:
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> You've misunderstood me.
>
> I accept that I'm a Sikh. It is not that I want to
> do non-Sikh things, and leave my Sikhi, to truly
> understand that I've been blessed to have been
> born into a Sikh family. What I'm saying is, that
> others who have to work their way up, have many
> experiences, and it is this that compels them to
> move forward, and to keep trying. But I'm already
> at this stage, without having anything to compel
> me forward. Yes, I have the sangat, but that is
> not the same. Yes, I've read books about others,
> heard personal stories, read translations of
> gurbani, but I find that it is still not the same
> as loving this path from your own heart, because
> you choose to. It's like being put somewhere, told
> to accept it, and try to work my way up.
>
> It's like being put into Grade 2, instead of
> Kindergarten, and told to just move, without any
> past knowledge, experience, or any idea of how to
> move forward. It's like being told to read without
> knowing the Alphabets.
>
> Yes, I'm been born into a specific level, which
> has given me a head start in my Sikhi. Yes, I
> truly appericiate that. But what now? I'm told to
> move on, to continue, to move to the next level,
> but how.
>
> That is why I was asking if I'm already at a
> particular level, being born into it, then does it
> not also mean that prehaps to understand how to
> move forward, and gain experience, I start from
> the first level, and try to bring my mind up to
> speed with what I'm to do.
>
> Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh!
Everyone goes through this searching stage, whether you are born into Sikhi or not. Everyone has something they are looking for, that will eventually bring them closer to what they had no idea was even within them.
I was not born into an amritdhari family, although I still felt "forced" to follow certain rules that didn't make any sense to me. When I was young, sometimes our parents would force us to sit down and say "Waheguru Waheguru" for a period of time, but it wasn't a positive environment. Other things I hated were all the rules that seemed to be associated with Sikhi, that seemed to be just the made up rituals of radicals who had no love in them.
It's not until Guru Sahib does kirpa and puts that spark in you, that the true radiant light of the path of Gursikhi shines through and fills you with new love, new understanding, and a new search for something far, far deeper. Bhai Gurdas Ji did write, that if you take one step towards Guru Sahib, he'll take a thousand towards you.
So what now? Take a step towards Guru Sahib, on your own two feet. Even if we have sangat, we're still alone on this journey, and sometimes we have to push along on our own for a while. I understand your point that people not born in Gursikh families have to fight to keep their rehit and bhagti, and that's what keeps them going. But you have your own personal struggle right now. You don't know where you stand. You don't know how to move forward. Maybe you don't feel that spark in you. And that's the hardest struggle of all.
But all it takes is one starting step. As Bhai Sahib said, amritvela is crucial. Also, try doing something you haven't done before, like writing bani. It might take ALOT of effort - but the point is never to let yourself stop trying. If you feel like you're at a standstill, perhaps talk to panj. Maybe there's something that needs to be cleared before you can move forward. And do lots of veechar with Gursikhs, about anything. That can be a truly inspiring push.
If you have no Gursikhs your age and you feel that's the main problem, then do bentee to Guru Sahib to bless you with the sangat of one, two, however many individuals, that can inspire you. Once, I felt really lonely, and wanted the sangat of Gursikhs, so I knocked on the door of a family I'd never talked to and introduced myself. It was really akward, and they must have been wierded out, but from that point on they were very friendly to me and I got to know them much better.
All it takes is a little effort.